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​How to Keep Married Fictional Couples Interesting – WITHOUT Splitting Them Up

11/10/2016

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You’ve just spent an entire novel bringing an amazing couple together.

They’re passionate, fun and fascinating to watch, and their chemistry has fans raving about how wonderful they are.

They’re so great that you’ve decided to write a sequel starring them... but there’s just one challenge.

You went and let them get married.
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​This is actually a great thing, and it opens the door to many new possibilities for your characters and story... but many writers don’t know what to do with their couples once they’re together.

After all, much of the conflict and suspense in the relationship came from the question of whether or not they’d overcome the barriers between them and become a couple, right? Now that they’re happily married, what is there left to do?
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You DON’T have to split up the couple to keep the story interesting.


When faced with a case of character-marriage-induced writer’s block, many authors default to disrupting the relationship that they and the characters just worked so hard to build.


In some stories, one partner gets killed, and the other goes on a quest to avenge them.

In others, one or both partners realize that being together isn’t actually that great, and they start fighting so much that the relationship your audience once loved becomes bitter and unrecognizable.

Whatever the case, instead of getting to see more of a relationship they enjoy, your audience ends up feeling let down because you took all that wonderful romance and character development, and either spent most of the story stomping on it, or completely tossed it in the trash.
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Here are 4 ways to keep your married couple interesting, WITHOUT breaking it up:


​Method 1: Identify the factors that made them interesting as a couple, and keep using them.


Did your readers sigh with longing at the way the pursuer chased their beloved? That doesn’t need to stop when they get married – they can still surprise their partner with unexpected and touching gestures of love.

Did the characters have snappy, snarky, witty banter that kept your audience howling with laughter? Just because they’re lovingly married doesn’t mean they can’t keep teasing each other!

Was there a sense of magic and mystery in the way they kept discovering aspects of each other that they hadn’t known before? Now that they trust each other, they have even more reason to reveal those hidden depths, so keep them coming!

Did you and your readers love watching them help each other to surmount their barriers to intimacy? Simply getting married doesn’t instantly heal all of a character’s wounds, or turn everything into boringly perfect happiness.

There will still be insecurities, fears, defences and flaws that can hold the characters back from the full potential of their love, so they can continue to grow, hesitate and discover even after they say “I do”.

After all, there can – and should! - still be growth, conflict and character development after they get married. But while portraying these things, I strongly recommend that you DON’T turn them into a fight that comes out of nowhere, or that makes a once-good relationship nearly unrecognizable.

Remember, conflict that flows naturally from the characters’ pasts and personalities is good. Conflict that’s shoehorned in just for the sake of conflict is a cheap and often implausible plot device, and your readers will probably notice.


Method 2: Give them something to overcome together.


A new villain can rise up, and force them to rise to new heights of power together on order to overcome their new foe.

A problem from one or both characters’ pasts can come back to haunt them, bringing both fresh danger and drama, and a reason for your character to discover new things about their beloved’s past.

A new revelation can make them question their partner’s character, and drive them to learn more about their spouse – preferably without resetting their relationship’s progress back to what it was before they got married. After all, this article is about how to keep them growing as a couple, not about restoring the status quo. ;)

They may have to change their lifestyle to adapt to married life – they can’t just go and do whatever they want without thinking about how it will affect their partner, and if they decide to draw the villain’s ire, now they have to think about the precious person their enemy might target as a result.

They might even have a baby together – which could be a source of heartwarming drama and comedy as an action hero learns how to change a diaper, or a source of excitement and badassery as the villains break into the house and the heroine fends them off with a sword in one hand and an infant in the other.

All in all, there are plenty of ways to add danger, conflict, drama and tension to a story, without splitting up the duo your audience has fallen in love with.


Method 3: Have the marriage itself act as a catalyst for character development.


When people enter a new level of intimacy, especially if they’ve never felt anything like it before, it can be uncomfortable for them. This is new emotional territory, which can cause them to pull back, get anxious, or even subconsciously sabotage their newfound joy.

The safety of a loving, trusting relationship also creates a haven for inner demons to come to the surface and be healed.

People are often drawn to partners who somehow trigger their emotional injuries and draw their buried wounds into the open, so this is a great opportunity to explore hidden hurts in a character who’s never shown those scars before.

Again, this isn’t a recommendation to make your couple spend the entire sequel fighting, or to tear their once-great relationship apart.

While ruining an established relationship CAN be an effective plot thread, it’s also a heavily-overused way to keep things interesting after the “I do”s, and it creates a risk of disrespecting your previous plot and character development by reverting to the previous status quo.


Method 4: Keep the characters in-character.

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This may sound obvious, but have you ever noticed that some characters become less “themselves” once they enter a relationship?

Maybe the action heroine becomes less brave, snarky and badass, or the hero loses his edge and becomes meek and tame.

Or maybe a new trait just suddenly sprang up – the hero turns overprotective in a way that doesn’t match his established past and personality, or the heroine morphs into a raging nag.

If the characters’ personalities suddenly mutate as soon as they’re in a relationship, you can’t be surprised when the audience starts wishing for the days when their beloved heroes were single and themselves.
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​Keeping married characters interesting doesn’t have to be hard.


You were already doing lots of things right, or else your audience wouldn’t love this couple so much.


Now that they’re married, there’s a new set of nuances to include in your story, but the foundational rule of keeping things interesting is actually pretty simple:

Know what you’ve been doing right, keep doing it, and try to find ways to do it even better as you explore the full potential of this bountiful new terrain.

Have you written, read or watched any romance stories in which the main couple is happily married for a large part of the story?

Who are your favourite couples, and what did the writers do to keep you interested in them?


I look forward to your comments.
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Robert
12/10/2016 03:32:18 pm

Very well written blog. Are you a marriage counsellor on the side?

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Stephanie link
19/10/2016 06:27:18 pm

Thank you very much. :)

I have yet to add marital counselling to my plethora of services, but I do often act as a mediating neutral party when people have differences of opinion, and I make a point of using my knowledge of psychology to give my characters' personalities and reactions extra layers and added realism.

That, and I've read a lot of relationship books, and watched the patterns in both relationships and stories that did and did not work.

Sorry it took so long to reply, by the way; I was supposed to receive notifications about comments via email, but apparently an email to tech support is in order.

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Raia
17/10/2016 06:49:40 pm

Have you written, read or watched any romance stories in which the main couple is happily married for a large part of the story?

I love period pieces like Jane Austen, Bronte Sisters, Elizabeth Gaskell, Winifred Holtaly to name a few. But sadly once they have their characters overcome the distance, the story ends with a 'Happily Ever After.' If your like me you are left craving for the story to continue to another chapter. The journey for them hasn't ended. The two authors that come to mind this minute who did break the mould, are Winston Graham with Poldark and Damelza. Karin Slaughter with Sara Linton and Jeffery Tolliver. Both these couples went through personal trials and tribulations, the domino effect from other characters but they found a realistic common ground that the readers could relate too.

That is my inspiration when I write. I take real couple issues and blend them into the supernatural world. I try to use my personal experience in creative writing. It's one thing to admire a character/couple for their strength and personality. But another to find areas in their hectic drama you can relate too as well. Sadly, again, it's not a formula that's valued. Like you so accurately put it. TV writers/authors conviently reach for the default option. If fact most of the writer I follow are happily married. I wonder why they don't write from personal experience when struggling in that area?

Who are your favourite couples, and what did the writers do to keep you interested in them?

I've mentioned two above. Winton Graham used, amongst many unheavels, a love triangle with his protagonist Poldark, his wife Damelza, and his boyhood love Elizabeth, to depict Poldark journey. None of the three are saints, thought Damelza is the purest of them. They all make mistakes and pay for them dearly. They are entangled by their own blindness and need to hold on to the past. But during it all Poldark learns to recognise what he felt for his boyhood crush Elizabeth is nothing compared to the deep bond and commitment he shared with his wife Damelza. They both learn to forgive and hold on to each other no matter the storm. It's actually very beautiful....and rare.

Karin Slaughter had her two protagonists marry then divorce. But all that was done long before the first novel starts. Your told in book 1 how young and impulsive they were. How the wife's independence had made the husband insecure. Yet it was her independence that had attracted him in the first place.....in fact the couple do love each other's annoying traits and towards book 3 admit that they have grown up enough to be committed again. All this is amidst a crime drama, which garenteed putting them in harms way since he was the Chief of police and she was the towns only Forensic Scientist. Add to that the secondary characters pulling them personally and professionally in all directions.

In fact I whole heartedly recommend both these novels amongst many to the TV writers or authors who take the easy option too readily. These writers didn't make the whole story about the woeful troubles of the married couple. There was arc distant from them yet connected to their professional lives and responsibilities. But there were moments of relief from all the mayhem around them for personal reflection. Enough so you do begin to understand where they are coming from and hope for the best, and even feel forefilled yourself when the story is resolved and they could begin another day.

I think this is a wonderful written piece Stephanie. Well thought out and the method points you gave are on the ball. I'm happy to have inspired you with my rant :)
I hope more writers (especially TV) would think having strong married couplings are intricate to the foundation of modern narratives. It's an area the 'old fashioned' thinking fans can relate too.

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Stephanie link
19/10/2016 06:44:51 pm

Thank you for the compliments and the well thought out comment, Raia!

It is a pity that so many stories end the moment the "happily ever after" begins, without exploring the journey that begins after they say "I do". Either that, or they turn that journey into a conflict that renders a once-great relationship bitter and unrecognizable.

It would be great if more stories featured married couples who were interesting for reasons other than the conflict between them. Come to think of it, one of my works in progress has a couple that I'd planned to have courting each other, but it would work just as well or even better if they were already married.

Speaking of blog posts you inspired, the second one was published on LiveWriteThrive today! I hope you enjoy it. http://www.livewritethrive.com/2016/10/19/dont-make-these-5-mistakes-make-when-writing-romance/

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Ryan Lanz link
21/1/2017 02:40:49 pm

Hi Stephanie! Per your earlier permission, I scheduled this article to be featured as a guest post on Feb 17th. As usual, it has your credit/bio/link. Thanks!

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